DAY #5: Love Is Not Rude
"He who blesses his friend with a loud voice early in the morning, it will be reckoned a curse to him." Proverbs 27:14
TODAY'S DARE:
Ask your spouse to tell you three things that cause him or her to be uncomfortable or irritated with you. You must do so without attacking them or justifying your behavior. This is from their perspective only.
MY REFLECTION:
I have discovered it is not just in my imagination that I don't get many opportunities in the week to have heart to heart conversations with my hubby. It took two days to be able to ask him what three things about me irritate him. It was almost like pulling teeth. I finally had to ask him if it was really that hard to come up with 3 irritating things, or if he was afraid of how I would react if he was honest with me. I reassured him that I would not attack him or be offended by his response. He said it was because it was 11:00 at night. Touche! Two of the three things he mentioned were not news to me. He's told me before, the revelation is, I obviously haven't been doing so great at working on them. The third thing was new. 1. He doesn't like it when I correct him in front of others, including our children. 2. It irritates him that I question his expertise in certain areas. 3. He doesn't like it when I brush him off, for whatever excuse, when he comes home in the evenings and greets me. Now, I could sit here and justify all 3 of these things. But rightly, and fairly, I cannot. I do not do the best at working on these. As a wife I should be exhorting my husband, at home and in front of others. I should be doing all that I can to set him up for success and not for failure. When it comes to his expertise, I believe there is something to be said about not always having to be correct. I know for myself, I have to fail sometimes in order to learn how to persevere and learn from my mistakes. It's always nice to have someone encouraging and supporting around that, even if they know the correct way, they don't say "I told you so" or rub your face in your mistake. I need to be more encouraging and supporting of my husband. And the third thing, I fuss at my husband all the time about not giving me and the kids some attention when he gets home. I get so wrapped up in the things that I'm doing when he gets home that I don't even take a few seconds to return his smooch half the time. Talk about eating my own words, YUCK!! Needless to say, this day's dare has shown me that I have room for improvement!
"He who blesses his friend with a loud voice early in the morning, it will be reckoned a curse to him." Proverbs 27:14
TODAY'S DARE:
Ask your spouse to tell you three things that cause him or her to be uncomfortable or irritated with you. You must do so without attacking them or justifying your behavior. This is from their perspective only.
MY REFLECTION:
I have discovered it is not just in my imagination that I don't get many opportunities in the week to have heart to heart conversations with my hubby. It took two days to be able to ask him what three things about me irritate him. It was almost like pulling teeth. I finally had to ask him if it was really that hard to come up with 3 irritating things, or if he was afraid of how I would react if he was honest with me. I reassured him that I would not attack him or be offended by his response. He said it was because it was 11:00 at night. Touche! Two of the three things he mentioned were not news to me. He's told me before, the revelation is, I obviously haven't been doing so great at working on them. The third thing was new. 1. He doesn't like it when I correct him in front of others, including our children. 2. It irritates him that I question his expertise in certain areas. 3. He doesn't like it when I brush him off, for whatever excuse, when he comes home in the evenings and greets me. Now, I could sit here and justify all 3 of these things. But rightly, and fairly, I cannot. I do not do the best at working on these. As a wife I should be exhorting my husband, at home and in front of others. I should be doing all that I can to set him up for success and not for failure. When it comes to his expertise, I believe there is something to be said about not always having to be correct. I know for myself, I have to fail sometimes in order to learn how to persevere and learn from my mistakes. It's always nice to have someone encouraging and supporting around that, even if they know the correct way, they don't say "I told you so" or rub your face in your mistake. I need to be more encouraging and supporting of my husband. And the third thing, I fuss at my husband all the time about not giving me and the kids some attention when he gets home. I get so wrapped up in the things that I'm doing when he gets home that I don't even take a few seconds to return his smooch half the time. Talk about eating my own words, YUCK!! Needless to say, this day's dare has shown me that I have room for improvement!
"The words from the mouth of a wise man are gracious." Ecclesiastes 10:12
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To read today's full dare from the book "The Love Dare" by Stephen & Alex Kendrick please copy and paste to your address bar the link posted below.
http://www.klove.com/blog/post/2010/01/10/Love-Dare-Day-5.aspx
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