The Love Dare: Day 13

DAY #13:  Love Fights Fair

"If a house is divided against itself, that house will not be able to stand."  Mark 3:25

 

TODAY'S DARE:
Talk with your spouse about establishing healthy rules of engagement.  If your mate is not ready for this, then write out your own personal rules to "fight" by.  Resolve to abide by them when the next disagreement occurs.

MY REFLECTION:

Tommy and I used to not fight fair and every once in a while we forget we have rules that we are supposed to abide by.  About three years ago, a very wise man who was helping Tommy and I through a rough patch asked us if we had healthy rules for fighting.  Neither of us knew what he was talking about.  We then sat down and proceeded to "argue" about what rules we would have.  That was one crazy argument.  We argued about arguing!  LOL!  We eventually came up with a list that, since then, we have stuck to as best as we could.  Our rules are similar to the ones mentioned in today's reading, just worded a little differently.  I think that it is very important to not bring up the past.  I used to do that all the time, like it was my own personal ammo when I felt like the "argument" was getting nowhere.  We have learned to deal with each event as they arise so they will not turn into issues later.  Someone once told us, you can never resolve an issue only events.  So, that's what we do.  We make sure we are OK and that we have forgiven one another before going to bed on a day where we have had a disagreement.  It has been more peaceful in our house and arguments don't last near as long!

"Be of the same mind toward one another."  Romans 12:16

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